Thanking people
People have a
great variety of ways to thank people and showing appreciation for a gift or an
act of kindness. Here are ten of them.
- Thanks.
- Cheers.
- Thank you very much.
- I really appreciate it.
- You've made my day.
- How thoughtful.
- You shouldn't have.
- That's so kind of you.
- I am most grateful.
- We would like to express our gratitude.
How To Use These Phrases In Your English
- Phrases 1 and 2 are fairly informal. People often say them without really thinking about it. We use them when somebody does something small to help you.
- Phrases 3 and 4 are more formal. We use these when somebody has done something quite large or important to help you.
- We use phrase 6 when somebody gives you a present. We are saying thank you to the other person for thinking about you and deciding to give a present.
- Phrase 7 is also for receiving a present. You are saying that the other person is too generous. It does NOT mean that the person speaking is angry or annoyed.
- Phrases 9 and 10 are more formal. Phrase 10 is especially formal and is only used in business letters and formal speeches.
· Thanking
someone
- Thanks.
- Thank you.
- Thanks a lot.
- Thank you very much.
- Thank you very much indeed.
- It was very kind of you.
- I appreciate your help.
- You’ve been very helpful.
Thanking someone who tires to help
- Thanks anyway.
- Thank you for (looking).
- Thanks for (trying).
- It doesn’t matter. Thanks.
- Never mind. Thanks.
Responding to thanks
- You’re welcome. (US)
- Not at all. (formal, UK)
- Don’t mention it.
- (It’s) my pleasure.
- It was nothing.
- That’s alright/OK.
- No problem.
- Anytime
Conversation Rituals
How are you? This is the classic American greeting, and is not normally seen as an actual request for a detailed report of the person's medical condition.
I’m sorry. Often saying I'm sorry is not about taking blame. Particularly among women, it really means: I’m taking your feelings into account. It can also be part of a 2-step ritual where both parties say I'm sorry:
Part 1: I'm sorry for that typo ...
Part 2: No, I'm sorry I wrote it so small.
Thanks. This is very similar to I'm Sorry, and is often part of a 2-step, symmetric ritual, such as you see between customer and clerk at a store.
Part 1: Thank you.
Part 2: Thanks.
Answering a 'thank you' with a 'your welcome' can be tricky. In some ways, this asymmetrical response is what is called for. In others, it is a way of establishing one-upness:
Part 1: Thank you. {expressing good feelings}
Part 2: Your welcome {interpreting 'thank you' as gratefulness of one in need}
The 'your welcome' seems to say acknowledge that person 1 was not fully together, not autonomous, and was dependent on person 2 to help them out.
Ritual fighting & jousting. This is where people exchange mild put downs and compete for the purpose of establishing rapport. Women are more likely to misunderstand the ritual nature of this and take it personally. Even for men, though, it usually requires other clues, such a twinkle in the eye, to make clear that it is a ritual and not a real competition.
Small talk. Discussion of unimportant things just to establish a relationship. Since establishing closeness is more important to women (according to Tannen, that is), we should observe women engaging in small talk more often than men. But both should do it.
There are differences in what topics they use for small talk. Men tend to talk about things outside themselves: sports, or work, while women tend to talk about themselves (each other), or things close to, such as clothing. Talking about each other is a more efficient way of establishing a relationship.
Patting each other on the back. "Great talk" "Thanks, yours too".
Troubles talk. This is where people complain about problems to commiserate, not to solve problem. Men often misunderstand the ritual nature of troubles talk, thinking that they are being asked to actually solve a problem rather than commiserate or bring up parallel problems.
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